• DrSoap@lemmy.world
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    I want to be the kind of person who can fight and not care. But I care. And if someone is hurling insults at me or gets vicious, I feel like they’ve spoken their truth and I just can’t be there friend ever again.

      • Sp00kyB00k@lemmy.world
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        Doesn’t work in dealing with narcissistic people. I cannot burn myself to keep them warm. Most of the times, I am the bad guy and should reflect. But not always.

  • Dharma Curious (he/him)@slrpnk.net
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    Honestly, I’m a dude, and way closer to the girl stereotype here. An argument is one thing, a debate, whatever. But if it’s gotten to the point of what is consider a fight, it’s probably kaput for the relationship, tbh. But that may just be me having a stronger definition of fight, perhaps?

    • remotelove@lemmy.ca
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      People get mad and say things they don’t mean. Many couples will get to the point of yelling and screaming at some point if they are together for a number of years. (Some people may never fight, and good on 'em!)

      A fight isn’t the issue: It a person’s willingness to forgive and forget is what should be measured. That, and a person’s ability to be remorseful is extremely important here as well.

      • razen@lemmy.world
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        Yeah I don’t see how people living together and spending of their time together will never get into fight.

    • HalfSalesman@lemmy.world
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      I think the implication is fights are more common and as a result are of lower concern. Unclear though.

  • razen@lemmy.world
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    I don’t think it work like this atleast in my case, if the fight is big and some words have been spoken then the chances of having same type of conversation like before is very less.