Hey at least there’s posters on the wall and an attempt to make the space livable! And he offered her a cold drink!
I loved hanging out with the single bachelors in my slut phase, but good lord, most of those guys were very content with a single chair and a TV in their apartment and only those things.
Have to admit, before I wanted a partner, I needed to build a proper “nest” to impress any potential mates. Got a home theater setup. All the right accoutrements and candles. Nice dishes, furniture, the works. I had designs to slay so much after I was done with the place. The only person I ever brought home ended up marrying me.
Before that? Mattress on the floor. One desk and chair for the computer. Didn’t even have a TV.
This is the advice men need to hear. Cleanliness and a hand towel go a long way, too. Also no one wants to fuck in a smelly apartment, clean your damn cat box.
I mean I dunno but I’ve had a trashcan in every room rule since I left home so maybe I am the problem. The bathroom ones got a removable sleeve so I can empty it into the big trash can to make it slightly easier to clean but that’s more a recent thing it’s not rocket science.
I did not take it as a comment on me! Or him, as he had the trashcan. And other qualities! It was mostly silly on my part, but it did inform me he thought about guests.
Damn, maybe you found your alternative career if the current one fails!
Maybe it is genetic. My uncle did interior design for a living. To be honest, it was both difficult and easy at the same time because I knew what kinda colors I liked but needed to pick a scheme that said “responsible adult you want to fuck”. What’s hilarious is that my partner and I am not home decorator people. Current home is definitely not something you’d see in a magazine. It was easy to spruce up a little studio apartment, more effort when the space is a lot bigger lol
If they didn’t care about home décor and just wanted to get laid, and the lack of home décor didn’t prevent them from getting laid, it sounds like they had things figured out pretty well.
My mother filled my apartment with furniture and nice pictures. Made me look normal. I never understood why until my eventual wife came over and then moved in. The space is very important
My partner is rather autistic and part of that is not caring about how his surroundings look. Very practical person. He doesn’t understand why I like having our house decorated, but he does understand that it makes me happy and he likes when I’m happy. It works out nicely sometimes!
My ex had very strong opinions about how our house should look - strong enough to push all of my wants out of the way - so this is a nice soft place to be in the aftermath :)
It’s not that we were content, it’s simply what we could afford.
That’s the reality of late stage capitalism, it can take years until you can save enough money for the basics. I couldn’t afford a couch until I was 30! Until then I had to put up with lawn chairs and bean bags. My credit card limit was only $500 when I was young, and we didn’t have Affirm yet because it was the early 2010s; if I didn’t have the cash, I couldn’t buy it! So needless to say, decorations aren’t exactly the priority when you can’t even afford furniture!
It’s not that we were content, it’s simply what we could afford.
Nah, that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m not separate from these bachelors that I was seeing, I’m not independently wealthy because I kept more than 1 towel in my apartment, and I’m the same age as them.
These were deliberate choices to keep things very minimal without any thoughts to having guests over.
Furniture-wise, what are we even looking at, though?
I think I see a dresser on the left and a green couch on the bottom right that appears to be pointed at a randomly placed refrigerator. Maybe it’s a bed, but I think the shape is more like a couch. So, that’s furniture from a bedroom, a living room, and a kitchen, all in one room.
Even for a studio apartment, this would be a very weird arrangement of furniture.
“Come, sit on this couch so we can stare at my refrigerator.”
Hey at least there’s posters on the wall and an attempt to make the space livable! And he offered her a cold drink!
I loved hanging out with the single bachelors in my slut phase, but good lord, most of those guys were very content with a single chair and a TV in their apartment and only those things.
Have to admit, before I wanted a partner, I needed to build a proper “nest” to impress any potential mates. Got a home theater setup. All the right accoutrements and candles. Nice dishes, furniture, the works. I had designs to slay so much after I was done with the place. The only person I ever brought home ended up marrying me.
Before that? Mattress on the floor. One desk and chair for the computer. Didn’t even have a TV.
This is the advice men need to hear. Cleanliness and a hand towel go a long way, too. Also no one wants to fuck in a smelly apartment, clean your damn cat box.
A trashcan in the bathroom let me know my husband was the one.
What was in it?
19 years later, I don’t fuckin remember. He probably had emptied it and put in a clean bag before I came over, statistically!
That’s kinda bleak
How do people both simultaneously shame men for understanding and not understanding women’s needs?
I think this more of a bar in hell thing. Who wouldn’t have a trashcan in the bathroom? A demon.
I mean I dunno but I’ve had a trashcan in every room rule since I left home so maybe I am the problem. The bathroom ones got a removable sleeve so I can empty it into the big trash can to make it slightly easier to clean but that’s more a recent thing it’s not rocket science.
“You and I are like eleven o’ clock and 1 o’ clock. You see, we are closer to each other than to others” —The Flying Finn
Sorry I meant it as a comment on the state of men not the person I replied to
I did not take it as a comment on me! Or him, as he had the trashcan. And other qualities! It was mostly silly on my part, but it did inform me he thought about guests.
It can be very practical to live like that when you’re on your own! I get it haha.
Damn, maybe you found your alternative career if the current one fails!
Maybe it is genetic. My uncle did interior design for a living. To be honest, it was both difficult and easy at the same time because I knew what kinda colors I liked but needed to pick a scheme that said “responsible adult you want to fuck”. What’s hilarious is that my partner and I am not home decorator people. Current home is definitely not something you’d see in a magazine. It was easy to spruce up a little studio apartment, more effort when the space is a lot bigger lol
If they didn’t care about home décor and just wanted to get laid, and the lack of home décor didn’t prevent them from getting laid, it sounds like they had things figured out pretty well.
Two way street - I wanted to get laid and the lack of home decor didn’t prevent me from riding that dick hahaha. Win win!
At least the lack of decorations helped hide any concerning fandoms!
My mother filled my apartment with furniture and nice pictures. Made me look normal. I never understood why until my eventual wife came over and then moved in. The space is very important
My partner is rather autistic and part of that is not caring about how his surroundings look. Very practical person. He doesn’t understand why I like having our house decorated, but he does understand that it makes me happy and he likes when I’m happy. It works out nicely sometimes!
Sounds like you got free reign on decorating the house, win win
An unexpected, but pleasant surprise!
My ex had very strong opinions about how our house should look - strong enough to push all of my wants out of the way - so this is a nice soft place to be in the aftermath :)
It’s not that we were content, it’s simply what we could afford.
That’s the reality of late stage capitalism, it can take years until you can save enough money for the basics. I couldn’t afford a couch until I was 30! Until then I had to put up with lawn chairs and bean bags. My credit card limit was only $500 when I was young, and we didn’t have Affirm yet because it was the early 2010s; if I didn’t have the cash, I couldn’t buy it! So needless to say, decorations aren’t exactly the priority when you can’t even afford furniture!
Nah, that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m not separate from these bachelors that I was seeing, I’m not independently wealthy because I kept more than 1 towel in my apartment, and I’m the same age as them.
These were deliberate choices to keep things very minimal without any thoughts to having guests over.
Furniture-wise, what are we even looking at, though?
I think I see a dresser on the left and a green couch on the bottom right that appears to be pointed at a randomly placed refrigerator. Maybe it’s a bed, but I think the shape is more like a couch. So, that’s furniture from a bedroom, a living room, and a kitchen, all in one room.
Even for a studio apartment, this would be a very weird arrangement of furniture.
“Come, sit on this couch so we can stare at my refrigerator.”
The couch could be pointing the opposite way to face something on the left side of the door past the key holder, like a wall mounted sword
LOL wall mounted sword. Too accurate.