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A ring is cheaper than vet bills.
❌ proposing by giving the person a ring
❌ proposing by giving the person a pet
✅ proposing to be the person’s pet
:3 (lore accurate :3 users)
Don’t let your dreams be dreams.
i need a suitable person tho
Normalize not buying useless $2000 USD pieces of junk that starved children in Congo had to dig with bare hands, just to marry your soul mate.
Especially as diamond rings are costly to purchase, but have relatively low resale value.
Buying her a diamond ring only shows you have money to burn.
I bought my wife’s engagement and wedding ring at a pawn shop. Fuck the superstitious bullshit. Probably saved $5k
Buy resold maybe?
That look on her face is “I thought you were my gay bestie, what?”
Okay but why would he want to marry her? Maybe she has a trust fund or disability benefits he wants to mooch off.
If he can’t afford a $200 ring, how can he afford to take care of a cat??
That is going to be one very very rough pet passing in 1-2 decades
And likely a treasure trove of memories that both celebrate their cat and symbolize their relationship once they deal with the worst of their grief and can enjoy the positive feelings again.
It’s weird to fixate on the eventual death of an elderly cat when you’ve fully neglected to mourn all the furniture that kitten is going to massacre
At first glance I honestly thought she looked horrified because he was interrupting her on the toilet.
“Nice beaver, here’s a cat.”
22 years of marriage here. Never bought, given, or worn a diamond in my life.
Marriage rings are a marketing campaign created to sell you a piece of carbon that is so “rare” they put them on $12 drill bit sets.
Yep. Yep. Different quality stones. Gotcha. Interested in buying a bridge by chance?
Carbon is the 4th most abundant element in the galaxy. Silicon is twice as rare, so maybe spend 6 month’s salary on a quartz ring instead? Either that, or save up for a down payment on a house. Nah, who needs a place to live when you can have a hunk of mineral, right?
If I’m spending 6 months salary on silicon, it better at least run Doom.
Silicone band to not interfere in workouts
$3
10 years, 1 child
How much for the bridge? I would need a guarantee though that it’s actually used and not just buolilt on flat land in the middle of nowhere! I am no fool after all.
natural diamonds, are indeed rare, in part because of the marketing campaign driving up demand for an completely useless use of them
They really aren’t, De Beers just had a cartel on the diamond industry and artificially restricted the supply to drive up prices. They have massive deep storage vaults filled with gem quality diamonds just so it can maintain pricing.
Gem quality materials are overall “rare”, but among gems… diamonds are practically common.
Yeah I’m not that far into marriage and I swear someday I’ll get around to getting a nice ring, but I currently wear a silicone one and my wife wears an heirloom ring from her family.
Why would it matter if you can’t afford jewelry to get married? If this were at a time where the husband is expected to be the sole earner, that could be a problem. But this is 2026. He’s working, she’s working, and getting married will not change that.
If anything, his and her individual financial burden will decrease by getting married by combining their finances and sharing bills, if they aren’t spending stupid money on diamond rings, big weddings, exotic honeymoons, etc. They’ll share a home, utilities, online subscriptions, etc. That will save them both money. If they can afford to live individually without luxuries, they can more easily afford to live together, maybe with the occasional luxury.
Stupid take.
My father took my mother with to pick out her ring. She insisted on a smaller diamond. He wanted to buy her a larger rock, could afford it, but my mama was thinking about running a household. As newlyweds, they added a room to the house, bought a brand new washer/dryer set and paid off a car.
Thank you.
Marriage is simultaneously promoted because it saves money due to sharing expenses and often (but not always) tax benefits, but also people don’t have enough money to get married. Wut?
The ring and wedding itself might be expensive, but they are also optional.
A little data point on the whole marriage thing… I and my life partner have been together for 20 y, will be 21 in September. We never got married and we don’t have any rings. I keep hearing that a lot of marriages these days don’t last this long.
We do informally call each other “my wife”, but still, no formal marriage was ever done.
* my partner and I
The only reason marriages lasted longer back in the day was because women were essentially indirectly forced to be with men. The whole bank account thing in the US is a really good example of how screwed women were. There were a lot of very long marriages that were deeply unhappy.
Nowadays, women get at least some amount of freedom to choose their partners and hundreds/thousands of years of men not having to actually be good people has meant that many of us are lonely and blame the women for having some standards. Good communication and mutual respect go a long way and those are the marriages that last these days.
Too bad they have to divorce when the cat dies.
Just put the cat in a box with a radioactive substances. Scroedinger’s marriage.
Schrodingers taxes…
Marital status: both
marital status: yes
That is good news. I’ve lost two cats (ages 16 and 18) to kidney disease, so I’m glad to hear there’s some progress in that area.
Maybe this couple could have a happy marriage for 25 or 30 years if this new treatment can keep their kitten’s kidneys working.
the jewelry is the least important thing about being married.
I think my spouse and I spent… $80 total on our rings. Seemed like a waste of money to both of us.
That was us. Our wedding bands were about that all in, and I got their engagement ring for about $125.
I think everything we did for our wedding, rings included, was around $1500. The majority of that was booze.
Good on you, when I hear how much people are spending on weddings man. Over 50k is “normal” to them? We put our money to a down payment. Much better use for it.
Our venue was the porch of a friend of ours. No wedding halls or anything. Whole guest list was maybe 30 people, only friends, no family. Just small, intimate, and amazing.
Sounds wonderful!
We didn’t do rings. I worked in a chemistry lab, husband has a skin issue and wearing a ring would probably mean nonstop doctor visits.
So we just didn’t have rings. It’s really very simple.
I just really hate the feeling of wearing rings.
If I was ever to get married (I won’t), then I wouldn’t have a ring.
I agree with you, but I’d say it’s a 50/50 toss up with women. Half of them would agree with us. The other half are too busy planning a 300k wedding on a 15/hr salary. Those types sometimes care more about the ring than the partner.
I know a lot of women who would be thrilled to be proposed to with a cat.
In the past, I’ve also known women who would be sour that they didn’t get a ring. I try not to know that type of person for long.
men are like that more than women
Thinking that 50 percent of women are shallow gold diggers seems a bit high. There are plenty of men who have superficial feelings about how they want their wife to look, but it’s nowhere near 50/50. Usually those gym bros and trophy wives pair up so they’re not really hurting anyone normal with their expectations.
Personally, I wear a silicone ring. So does my spouse. Our rings for our wedding were a hand me down and a band with a non diamond stone. That said, it’s fair to want a ring. It’s fair to want the tradition, and it’s fair to be comforted by the idea that your partner has been thinking about asking you to merge lives for longer than just today. A ring used to mean more when women weren’t allowed their own bank accounts (actually very recently, in the scheme of things), but it’s still meaningful in a society where we’re taught (incorrectly) that men value non commitment, and don’t want to get “chained” to a “nagging wife.”
Funnily, it’s guys who make comments like you (that it’s a total toss up whether any woman has an ounce of substance to her or if she’s a total bimbo who only cares about money) that make women afraid that men are not going to fully commit which is why things like a big unnecessary time commitment before the proposal seems romantic and reassuring
Honestly, propose to me with a new Akrapovic Slip-On exhaust for my Hornet 750 and a small ceremony near the water in the country with a moto camping trip as the honeymoon and I’d be in biker girl heaven.
Could get away with the whole shebang for under $10k
To be fair, that exhaust probably costs as much as most wedding rings anyway lol.
I see that you have impeccable taste.
Bike go vroom, makes the happy brain chemicals :)
Those types sometimes care more about the ring than the partner.
I have heard of them, “he hasn’t proposed yet so I left him” kinda thing. That guy was probably happy with things and completely unaware she expected anything to change.
I do find it odd that when I have looked at posts about it before the vast majority of weddings seem to be super expensive or super cheap. Very little in the middle. Like 3 digits going to a pub for food or 5+ getting fucking everything.
We were sort of in the middle? Wedding dress was a prom dress from Debenham’s (70 quid), Edinburgh registry office, a few friends, 1 brother and the parentals. Afternoon tea at the Balmoral. Not cheap but not 5 figures either.
Ohh that sounds like a nice idea. Much smaller event but something nice.
Not sure how much of my family would go, they are spread across different corners of the UK. Meanwhile my partner’s family is all packed into an area I can walk across.
We had a reasonably priced wedding and then went to Scotland in our honeymoon. One of the best trips I’ve ever had.
I agree, but also, if you can’t afford a cheap ass ring, you probably can’t afford a pet. It doesn’t need to be something fancy. If you care about that tradition (not implying the person in the image does), you can get rings pretty cheap if you don’t need the whole diamond thing, and even cheaper if you’re willing to buy second-hand.
Surely a second hand wedding ring must be cursed or something right? Why was it available in the first place? Did they die? Get divorced? Lose their hands and or fingers in some fetish play gone horribly wrong?
Better to just avoid the whole situation and get a cat.
Huh. I don’t think I’ve seen a band where the drummer was the singer before.
That’s very close to what my wife said when I sent the same link to her.
On the internet, nobody knows that you’re
a dogtheir wife. (Joking. Or am I? :P)
Some people would probably pay extra for that last one.
That he can’t afford it is a stupid assumption imo, this looks like a deliberate choice. Being responsible for raising and taking care of a kitten together is a much bigger commitment than wearing a ring.
Meh, it’s all fake af probably but the initial post says he was couldn’t afford a ring so if we’re going with it then yeah he is poor in this hypothetical.
