I’m basically living with this guy now. I keep saying “guy” because it feels too soon to call him my boyfriend or say we’re actually dating. It’s still kind of a getting-to-know-each-other thing, but we’re also fucking and pretty much living like a couple lol.
They were roommates
if you live with him dude I mean that’s what being married is
It’s called fucking living together.
If you have any concerns or questions about your relationship, it is a really good idea to talk to him and sort it out before it becomes an issue.
The relationship being something other than what you wanted isn’t the worst thing that can happen. The worst thing that can happen is if you didn’t know that that was the case.
It’s too soon to call him your boyfriend but not too soon to move in together?
Capitalist situationship?
I needed a roommate and we ended up fucking.
I’ve seen that one
Lol
Sounds like they should go to a Coldplay concert and hash it out.
Have you thought about sitting down with him and talking about it?
Relationships are built upon one thing… Trust.
Trust requires communication.
situationship?
I’m suspecting this too
At this speed you’re getting married in three days and divorce in a week.
For real honestly
The comments are so funny btw. I’m enjoying the comment section
You need to talk with him about it. It’s whatever you and he decide it is. Communication is so damn important. Start this thing off right and open those lines of communication
Roommates with benefits?
Lol 😹😹
You met three days ago? And you are “basically living together”?
Considering the length, it’s a fling. Considering you haven’t talked about it, it’s a situationship.
My unwanted and unasked advice is to take some distance for at least a day before calling it anything at all. And then talk about expectations.
Honestly (anecdote time!), when I started going out with my partner, I had some weird and totally personal hang ups with the word “boyfriend”. So for a couple of months they were “the person I am seeing” then became my “partner”. We had the conversation about exclusivity and such, talked about where we saw stuff going and so on, but wording was difficult. A word is just a word, as long as you both agree on the rest it doesn’t really matter much.
Yeah, it’s very fast, I know. But it’s something I’ve always wanted to do and couldn’t in my past relationship (2024-2026). We were living in the Gulf, and my ex was living with his family, so that came with a lot of restrictions (Muslim background, family expectations, etc.).
This guy actually wants me here, and I’m in a position where I can do it, I don’t have a job right now, online school is more of a formality like I mentioned before, and my parents support me financially. So I’m not really tied down by anything, and I just took the opportunity, lol.
Yeah that doesn’t make it less bad of an idea, actually probably worse of one.
Have fun. Don’t get killed. Bail when it starts going south. Learn from the experience
-an experienced older slut
That’s a fling, then. It could develop into something different, but that’s all it is at the moment.
Another comment said you can safely assume he’s your boyfriend. Before I did that, I’d want to have a clear and explicit conversation about exclusivity (do you two want to have it or not?).
As to your broader question, sure the label to the relationship might help in clarifying expectations.
But more important is what kind of person you want to be to him and vice versa. Years from now, if you were to look back on what kind of person you were in this period, what would you like to see? Kindness? Exploration? Consistency? Honesty? Playfulness?
Are you the person who was asking about making soup for your first date/hook up since he left you at his house the morning after?
Not judging, just curious.
Yeah.
how did the soup go over?
Oh, he loved it.
I bet he did.
Seems weird to move in and act like a couple without actually calling it that, but then I knew folks who did that for 10 years and went “Oh, shit! We forgot to get married!” 😉 (yes, they did get married).
You’re above “Friends with Benefits”, but below “Seriously Involved”.
I’d say enjoy it. If other people ask just say “boyfriend/girlfriend” as social shorthand, no sense confusing people.
Name it when you’re ready.
Mitch Hedberg: “I don’t have a girlfriend, but I do know someone who would be mad at me for saying that.”
