A spanking can be delivered in many different ways.
It could be a playful slap of the arse which signifies affection or a little hint at the naughtiness to come. It could be a stronger strike, maybe as they hold you by the wrist, which makes it perfectly clear that when they fuck you, it’s going to be hard and rough.
Of course, then there’s the type of spanking which is an accompaniment to being mounted from behind and fucked. This kind of spanking could signal that they’re not content with simply the delicious discomfort of their cock railing deep into your guts, they want to remind you that, right now, they own that arse of yours. It could be to provide a beautiful sharp stingy counterpoint to the unadulterated pleasure of your cunt wrapping progressively tighter around their cock, one that will both hasten and intensify the way you cum for them.
Then, there’s the punishment spankings, an exercise in authority and a demonstration that actions have consequences. These spankings have a ritualistic element to them: explaining yourself, having your knickers torn down, being bent over, maybe across their knee before your arse is turned red and you demonstrate your contrition, earning respite. There’s a continuum for these kinds of spankings, they can be delicate, affectionate and filled with loving yet condescending intent or they can be severe and humiliating, their care being reserved for after the event so that, in the moment your fight or flight instinct mingles intoxicatingly with your arousal to achieve maximum impact. Maybe you’re restrained, maybe you hold still, maybe you must wear a plug as your arse contracts with the impact, maybe you’re gagged. The variations are endless.
I’m curious, if you’re a fan of spanking or being spanked, which variety or varieties are your favourite and what makes you so fond of them?
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Big fan of spanking because pain and pleasure are way more connected than most people know !
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20151001-why-pain-feels-good
“The link between pleasure and pain is deeply rooted in our biology. For a start, all pain causes the central nervous system to release endorphins – proteins which act to block pain and work in a similar way to opiates such as morphine to induce feelings of euphoria.”
And
"Meanwhile, the pain of intense exercise also causes a spike in another of the body’s painkillers, anandamide. Known as the ‘bliss chemical’, it binds to cannabinoid receptors in the brain to block pain signals and induce the warm, fuzzy pleasure emulated by marijuana, which binds to the same receptors. Adrenaline, also produced in response to pain, adds to the excitement by raising the athlete’s heart rate. "
When done properly pain is like administering at least 3 drugs at once, opiates from the endorphins, THC from anandamide and an amphetamine like effect from Adrenaline (I believe the correct name for the hormone is epinephrine)
So who needs drugs really?
Plus it’s just really fun to tie a lady up and smack the shit out of her.
And are you a bare hands kind of lady or a fan of using implements: a paddle, brush, flogger or cane?
Anything that makes that arse as pink as rare roast beef 🤭
Disciplinary is hot. I really like hands best, because with paddle guys have no tactile feedback and can go too hard, I can take it but it bothers me that they have no side effect, not sure how to explain it.
Husband uses hands or the belt, I fear the belt, though sitting here typing that turns me on, in practice it gets to be too much too fast.
Maybe this would be moderated with someone more experienced with tools (the severity) I’m sure for some it becomes an extension of their arm and control is there, but I guess I just think you ought not be able to hit someone without it hurting you a little!
I tend to find there’s a greater intimacy with a hand spanking. I think you can draw a belt spanking out not just by making sure to calibrate the severity but by reducing the frequency of the blows. In between every crack of the belt, a hand can explore, stroking over those exposed buttocks and leaving you guessing when the next blow is going to arrive as it mauls that warm red flesh. The roaming hand can explore just your buttocks and thighs, or it can stray between your legs exploring your state of arousal, stimulating you during the punishment or alternatively finding reason to chastise you further or to verbally degrade you as they discover just how sticky your cunt has become as a result of having your bared backside whipped.
Practice with the implement and seek to control various intensities until you can reliably threshold test. Early on to build trust you can practice while your partner holds a pillow against his or her bottom. This gets you practice without pain until your partner (and you) is sure you’re ready.
I tend toward giving disciplinary spankings in a rules based dynamic. And I will separate sensual impact play from spankings with floggings and light whipping in bondage so as to keep spankings or correction real and distinct. A sensual flogging will likely end in sex. But a disciplinary spanking will lead to corner time, to air out her spanked bottom for self reflection, then end with aftercare. Not sex.
I no longer spank by hand because over the years of regular typing I’ve developed carpel tunnel syndrome. So if over the knee is agreed upon, I’ll use a small hand paddle I have. Otherwise, I prefer the cane. And the reason for that is that canes have a very wide latitude for intensity. Light flicks of the wrist can give a mild spanking, leading to a red bottom, but not harsh stripes or welts. And this goes up in gradations to vary harsh spankings with welts and stripes, though I always pain threshold test and am careful not to exceed my partner’s limits. If the cane is not acceptable, my next choice is the strap. I have two, one a traditional handmade two tailed tawse and the other a regular strap. But these have less intensity range on the light end. A strap will just flop around if you strike lightly, so it either hurts or it really hurts.
Which implement and intensity levels are negotiated based on a rules and consequences agreement. But my bottom line (so to speak) is that consequences must be real. Even the proportionally lightest spanking for cause must at least be effective to likely deter repeating whatever problematic behavior led to correction in the near term.
A partner who agrees to this is expected to participate in her correction. She will have ample opportunity to appeal or call a safeword, but once she agrees to a spanking she will engage in the process without avoidance. She will hold position and not block. Etc. And the spanking will not be sensual, though a warmup might be. Ultimately, a disciplinary spanking should hurt.
I don’t spank my child, only adult women in a consensual dynamic.
