Are there any safer options that dont have a risk of my parents knowing? Like I’ve mentioned in other replies in this thread I am sure they’d be accepting and I told them I was nb like a year ago to test the waters and they’ve been fine with that I just really am not ready for that conversation

I get that it’s probably a bad idea I just desperately need this and I’m not ready to have that talk with my parents

it’s just that I’m not ready to have that conversation with my parents yet but I need to medically transition as soon as possible. thank you for the resource

I’m kind of out to my parents they know that I go by a different name and I’ve only told them that I’m nonbinary. they seem to be supportive of my sister who’s lesbian as well. I don’t know if I can deal with being forced through more therapy to get hrt because my mental health has been in the gutter for the past 3 years and I would preferably not have to “prove” to a cis person that I have severe gender dysphoria

the issue with being in the US is with his things are right now I’m worried that the “good care” could get taken away very soon bc of the current politics situation. I don’t really know much about how the clinical stuff works besides if you dont get it through planned parenthood you have to be diagnosed and it’s a huge wait but I might be completely wrong

he can merge without looking

I want graphine on my phone so badly but I can’t because it’s carrier locked :(

Personally I just skip the vps. I use my old HP laptop running fedora as my server (with cloudflared to expose my jellyfin and nextcloud because I live in a dorm and can’t port forward)

wish my phone wasn’t carrier locked so I could switch to graphine

fr having jellyfin for music and also shows and just pirating them is great :)

I LOVE SELFHOSTING

and that’s how I lost my medical license!

I use cloudflares tunneling service cloud flared which allowes me to have the service running on my home server and then cloudflare will automatically make the subdomains point towards the ip

need

I mean I don’t really have a choice because i don’t see a better way to put my home server on a url because I live in a dorm and can’t port forward or get a static ip

Mastodon is still federated and while there are going to be some instances run by bad actors the majority of them aren’t as bad. From what I understand at least mastodon.social is defederated with the bad instances anyway so we can’t interact with each other but I may be wrong I’m kind of new to this type of platform

I LOVE SELF HOSTING

Yeah. If you want an alternative I’d recommend mastodon because from what I’ve seen at least it’s not as brain dead

I really appreciate the advice I think I’m gonna just try buying some fem clothes tomorrow

Any idea how I could find some trans communities irl? I live in a city but I don’t know how to look for those types of groups and this is sort of the first time I’ve gone and actually not lurked and said something on a specifically trans community