The old outlook was just perfect, the new one is positively abhorrent. I swear if they force one more app to me I’m going to purposefully stop using it altogether

I’ve noticed that the lack of content and poor arrangements is pushing me back to reddit

My realization came from DDLC. I learned about what other people can feel after you’ve left

Oh yes, definitely.

It wasn’t always the case. I started Journaling as a means to recover my mental health. The initial entries were really dark and I don’t read them often, perhaps less than once a year.

After I recovered, I started using it as a logbook for my own life. Initially I only just wrote events happening around me, or interesting world events, but soon I was writing my own desires to improve myself.

That’s when it really kicked off for me. Till now about 2 years had passed since I started Journaling. I would write about something I wished to change about myself, like reducing soft drink consumption, quitting cigarettes, or just changing my behavior a certain way. Gradually I would write about how I could go about realizing it, eventually I would do it.

Reading back I can see that today I am totally different from me a year ago. It’s really fascinating to me and it has helped me to stay way ahead of my mental health. I was able to recognize a relapse in my depression and address it accordingly.

A couple of things help me:

1. Having bigger hands for a start
2. Native gestures
3. Extra gestures using specific apps

That last one is the best deal

That starting the work is half the work. I wasted a lot of time procrastinating, it took me shamefully long to realize that if I could just start an activity for 5 minutes, taking it to completion is then relatively easy

Sweat, make yourself love it. Train your mind to enjoy it when your body makes sweat.

Be consistent, do not lose hope or motivation after a week, or s month. Try to keep at it for at least a couple of months

What’s most frustrating about it is that even when I try to help others see that this is the real cause of friction between us - that poor communication or misunderstanding is the real cause of our arguments, many if not most would still fight me that I’m wrong and they’re right and it’s like nobody wants to reach a solution, they’d rather forever spin in the accusations

I’ve seen many kids well into their 30s, and I’ve seen many old souls just entering 20s. Maturity comes at different stages for everyone, and some don’t get it at all. Don’t Overthinking the age gap, what you really need is mental compatibility. If it’s there then you’ll be fine.

Yeah, I didn’t see that and selected the wrong choice smh

Thanks Alot, for sharing this, it was a great fun read

Lemmy for me isn’t even close to what reddit was. Careful selection of several dozen subs over past many years meant that I felt at home browsing the feed. On lemmy, I’ve tried to join similar instances as my subscribed subreddits, but so far it’s empty. The situation is improving and I hope to one day see better content here than in reddit

Yes, but not in the way you’d think.

I think lemmy won’t be easy enough to use for a vast majority of users, they’ll stick to the traditional platforms.

However, I think if the hype continues for a while, and the little kinks are ironed out soon enough, it will give rise to a new, different kind of platform.

People have this idea that lemmy will replace reddit and just become Reddit 2.0. I think lemmy is still a place similar to a phoenix burning. The new bird has yet to take it’s first breath, and it’ll be quiet different from what we imagine or what we are used to today

After battling with depression for 6 years, my life turned around. In just under a year, I went from having suicidal thoughts to graduating and landing one of the best jobs in my entire country.

It took me a while to fully accept that good things can happen to me, I think it was almost an entire year before I was in a normal mental state.

Take a deep breath, understand what is the minimum required from you on your new job, do not fall below that, and just let the blissful feelings come in. Enjoy this moment, perhaps years down the line, on a really tough day, you’ll remember your current mood and be happy even in face of hardships.

Congrats on finally it to your dream :)

Would be funny if they can successfully counter-sue apple to stop using their logo

Oh, I have a story that is not much different. I am what you called science-minded person. So, you can imagine what I must be thinking about tarot cards or astrology. But I definitely do get you. Few days back I had a dream. That lead me down the rabbit hole of deciphering its meaning. It wasn’t anything spectacular, just plain old random-ass dream. But dreams are pretty big in my society so there is ample material to decipher them. I picked one up at random and found out that my dream was good. That was it.

I admit that some other dream dictionary might tell me that my dream is an omen of doom, but just like yourself I took that initial meaning and wrapped it around my situation well enough that I could spend next few days in relative calm. Even though I do not believe in them at all.

For me it has always been me talking to myself. Very rarely I would take an approach where I needed to detach from myself in hopes of finding the best option objectively and without my own bias etc.

To start off, try to speak to yourself just as you would with any other person. Obviously, you may think that you know yourself well enough (I’ll explain why this is wrong later, but for the sake of explanation just go with it) so that you can try to speak to yourself like this is your best friend. You know your likes, dislikes, things you like to talk about, things you are afraid of. The best feeling you can seek is to be able to speak with absolute freedom, because it’s you yourself you are talking to. So, you don’t have to fear of coming out as being awkward.

I was all over the place when I started. Sometimes I still am. But it’s quiet unlike speaking to some other person. When you speak to others your mind starts to wonder what if they think you are too weird. You absolutely will be weird in the start, just like you are weird around new people. But as your friendship grows you get more comfortable.

So, the key is to keep writing on the regular. I normally write a couple of pages once a month. Lately I’ve been writing more due to some stress in my life. You can write once a month, or once a week or a day. Or even multiple times a day, but make it a habit to write regularly. You will find that very quickly you will become comfortable with this new friend and your writing style will change. Mine has changed multiple times over the years. It has taken me on a journey of self-discovery. And I promise you, if you can go even 10% as far as I have in journaling, you will recognize that you never really knew yourself before you started journaling.

I myself started writing in a notepad on my laptop. Sometimes when I needed to I would write on my phone even. In those initial days it would often be months before I would write anything. But it helped me still. I hope you can find something that can benefit you

Been exploring, setting up my account, learning to use lemmy since 2am, this is the fundamental issue in facing, one that I cannot seem to wrap my head around.

I’m not sure (someone can correct me if I’m wrong) if my account is in certain instance, I can subscribe to communities in that instance, or other external instances. However, subscribing to communities in other instances is pretty tedious. I still don’t know how to reliably do it on PC let alone mobile. It’s a toss up for me if it’ll open in my account or a new page asking me to log in to that instance.

Hopefully in the coming months lemmy can take off and we can have something amazing on our hands