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  • Nothing about the % of Americans who think trans people should be able to play HS sports on their new gender.

    Because that’s like 45%.

    Or who think trans youth should have access to gender affirming care, which is similarly low.

    And those are the issues that the GOP is hammering, because they know it.

    We have to get the spotlight off these issues we got ahead of public perception and there is a cost for that - a whole generation of trans people denied rights (I am less interested in sports than I am gender affirming care, which is hugely important for trans youth).

    You can see trans folks realizing this… like 1/2 of the plaintiffs for the sports case that made it to SCOTUS thought the suit should be dropped before it got that far, because they realized it was going to go the wrong way.

    It’s time to be more strategic until/if the GOP gets out of power, so we stop kneecapping ourselves.






  • My inlaws do a big 4th of July fireworks show, for many years a drone would come hover 100ft above us, recording it. We never found out who it was. Fairly creepy actually.

    I have a drone and played with it a fair amount, drove it around my neighborhood, well beyond the “line of sight” requirement. I managed to hit trees several times because it doesn’t have fancy avoidance features. Hard to tell from the single camera when you’re rising up or backing into a tree branch.

    Eventually I got bored tho. I did learn how to file flight plans, do all the things right. I live near an air force base, so there are entire sections of the city including parks where I cannot fly it.

    Eventually it gets a little boring. I can’t wait for my toddler to get a bit older and then he will think it’s fun. For a week, and then he’ll get bored.






  • Developmental psychology (Erik Erickson’s theory) teaches us that adults tend to go one of two ways as they approach and hit mid-life - generativity and stagnation. People who have a purpose, who are considering leaving some sort of mark or legacy, to contributing to society tend to fare better. They are happier and more satisfied as time goes on. Folks who become self-absorbed and preoccupied with their own comfort and convenience will then stagnate, which you can imagine is the cranky old person stereotype.

    I do subscribe to this theory which is why at 43 I am running a non-profit I started, working to empower other leaders in my community, working on changing legislation for my community, working on building the community itself. I want to be the kind of person who is generous and kind and open-hearted, and be fulfilled. I don’t want to be the person who is counting the ways life did them wrong, using that as a justification to lick wounds and retreat from life, jaded and alone.



  • My boss claims it has “no effect” to choose where to spend your money.

    I remind him, voting with our wallets is literally the only mechanism Capitalism provides for consumer ethics.

    It’s Prisoner’s dilemma. When we think 5m people are going to take the action either way, we don’t think our singular efforts matter. But as there are 5m of us taking the action, there are 5m singular efforts that DO matter. If people just don’t give up on the idea.

    Says the guy who still has an Amazon account :/