you mean she wants you to take the package back to a post office… or does she want you to deal with the seller?

can’t she fill the forms and take the package to a post office alone?

no bans so far?

but if its the wrong size it going to stay the wrong size no matter what you do.

I was afraid of that.

correct, half a size smaller. Title corrected.

I want them to be as versatile as possible, so both events only and all day long. Would the smaller size be a problem?

I can buy em, test em for 4 weeks and return if not happy with them

nice, a cobbler :D

shoe size is largely a suggestion.

does this mean the same nominal size can mean differences larger than half an inch in length? 0.25 in?

In this case, the seller provides both the sizing and the shoe’s length, explicitly stating to trust the length more than the sizing, that’s why I’m giving it a shot.

It is possible to stretch shoes

Now I’m curious. How would you stretch this stiletto sandal? see below

as much as I’d love to use this line, this would put a huge mark on my back, at least where I work at.

surprising how thin skinned some people are.

updating my cv as of now…

this is even better than I won’t apologise for having a growth mindset.

good advice, also using it

I won’t apologise for having a growth mindset.

this is perfect! I’m using it

Ren, don’t waste your time with null, he’s completely reactive at this point, unable to see how he contradicts himself (first writing to hire only candidates who claim to be excited to be part of your team because I want to learn all I can from you, immediately after writing Everyone lies in interviews).

projecting

does that work without a diagnose?

could yo describe why it made you miserable? To me a job is something I do for money, not because I need friends. There are bars and clubs to meet people.

thanks for answering.

I guess I could play a small social experiment and see how people react before I change workplaces and decide if I can and want to keep placating people this way?

Notice that I get along with some coworkers. With these ones I don’t need to play theatrics. It’s the loud, yelling ones with no boundaries the ones that grind my gears and make me want to run for life.

I’m not so sure myself. I want to be me and choose who I open up to but sadly this society is run by extroverts. Not many of them understand that some people work better in silence and are not interested in their lives. They act like I hate them but what I feel is indifference. Some of them are reeeeally thin skinned.

I guess I could play a small social experiment and see how people react before I change workplaces and decide if I can keep placating people this way?

Notice that I get along with some coworkers. With them I don’t need to play theatrics. It’s the loud, yelling ones the ones that grind my gears and make me want to run for life.

People are assholes; Ignore 90% of what they say, if possible. Just be yourself. It’s the best person you could possibly be.

I’m surprised to see that your post has been upvoted. Usually the shy, quiet ones are mistaken for arrogant jerks and get bullied and downvoted by the extroverts.

I’m actually conflicted because on one hand I want to be me, my freedom above everything else, I choose my friends and the people I open up to and otoh I wonder if I should play theatrics for short bursts of time (like 2 minutes) to placate some coworker’s fragile egos.

My teenager self with my parents were like yours: open up, talk more, you are not normal (yup, my father told me that). They bullied me and I tried that for a week, extremely tiring and ridiculous to talk to them about stupid sh*t I don’t care about just to please the needy extroverts, but obviously I would go back to my normal self, because they are so tiring. My parents didn’t respect me, same as these needy coworkers now.

It doesn’t make any sense trying to change a person’s personality. So sad that extroverts feel we do this because we hate them.

I still don’t know what the ideal solution is, or if there’s an ideal solution.

thanks for your post and good luck to you.

I’m here to get shit done and collect my paychecks, not to have ‘emotional experiences’ every day with everyone.

this. so.much.this

I expect communications to be productive, not ‘emotional’. I’m just an IC, not the company’s counsellor.

as much as I’d like to use this line, if I do where I work now, a meltdown will ensue with the drama queens at my workplace yelling at me.

And then I’ll be labelled not a team player.

I will time it. Thanks

I don’t have any answers, but you do have my sympathy.

thank you

can only say it pays to learn how to force a smile, even if it feels insincere.

I’m a terrible actor and I hate phony people.

If you just say “hello” back then they are usually satisfied.

sadly, that’s not the case where I am. They always want more.

They take offense because “wanting nothing from them” implies that they have nothing to offer.

but some of them do have something to offer: job experience and know how, but they fixate on gossiping and badmouthing other coworkers when they’re not around.