That’s a thin ice you’re walking here… Some people appreciate the support, some people don’t like when work contacts get into their personal feelings territory.
It’s highly dependent on how close your interpersonal relationship is with co-worker, what I’d avoid for sure is suddenly closing the distance just because you know he is trans and you can tell recent events are affecting him.
You’d need to put a bit more thought into that, at least to start thinking in more detailed terms than “US” and “outside”.
Countries, visa types, schools for your kid, work opportunities for your wife, local language, acceptance of your identity (believe me, majority of places in the world are much worse in that regard than Trump could ever be), etc, etc…
What I can promise you is that money situation will be worse. Uprooting yourself and moving somewhere is a costly endeavor (did that 2 times, it’s not fun), and besides that US is the best country to earn money out there, it’s much harder to cover necessities and have disposable income pretty much anywhere else.
on reddit majority of heavy lifting is done by community mods. hosting, however, is a pain, lemmy is centralized as fuck.
I get where you are coming from, however it’s important to remember that big players are not equal - they have really, really different people in the leadership. Elmo is just a too-big-to-fall clown with insane ego, spez is a manchild who took VC money like there’s no tomorrow and in the end had no idea how to provide ROI, but youtube is ran by very competent people with solid track record and deep pockets.
Maybe they are not too innovative business-wise recently… but they are good at catching up (except live streaming - screen layout is dogshit and nobody wants to get hyped in their tiny chatbox from a fucking google account with family photo as an avatar) and at leveraging what they already have, which is quite a lot, tbh.
Yt makes a series of bad decisions
It’s not like it’s making any bad decisions right now. Pretty calculated, I’d say - they feel safe market-wise, so they can increase amount of ads/fight ad-blockers/push people to buy subscription.
why not? it’s not like there is any competition.
Microsoft is making more money off Linux with Azure than several red hats combined.
10% is too low. Usually they won’t be against paying you the same they are paying your current employer for your services, so you can safely do 20% raise ( your employer charges more, of course, but there are other costs involved to set up and run the operation).
I run flood together with qbittorrent, looks great everywhere.
ramnode or linode will do, you’ll need 2+GB of RAM.
1000 daily visitors
it’s not much, any non-micro vps from decent provider will do. For precise recommendations it’d be better to know where most of your users are located, latency is a bitch.
It’s not even about gui.
If you want to self host you get yourself a pile of software of community-level quality (i.e “it works good until it doesn’t” is the best outcome) you need to care about. This means constantly being involved - updating, maintaining, learning something, etc, and honestly it’s time-consuming even for experienced sysadmins.
that’s cap, unlimited parts of autobahns are about the same in fatalities as speed limited highways. Although I doubt that it could be replicated outside of DACH countries, it’s more of a driving culture issue, people just have less ego on the road in Germany.