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  • Your co-workers are triangulating. It may be for a combination of various reasons:

    1. They have tried and failed in the past
    2. They are scared of rejection, retribution, etc. consciously or unconsciously and it’s easy to volunteer someone else
    3. You are really charismatic and/or great at your job and they think you have new ideas that will work

    Triangulation is used to avoid conflict. Many people come to others in life, looking to have that person take on yhrir problems through triangulation. It’s generally not effective: it disempowers the requestor/initiator by giving responsibility for resolution of the issue to someone else, who may not before likely to solve it, and can but actually make things much worse.

    Encourage them to see how they can play a role in solving the problem. Do it together if you want to help but don’t be their “superman”.







  • Great article, brave and correct. Good luck getting the same leaders who blindly believe in a magical trend for this or next quarters numbers; they don’t care about things a year away let alone 10.

    I work in HR and was stuck by the parallel between management jobs being gutted by major corps starting in the 80s and 90s during “downsizing” who either never replaced them or offshore them. They had the Big 4 telling them it was the future of business. Know who is now providing consultation to them on why they have poor ops, processes, high turnover, etc? Take $ on the way in, and the way out. AI is just the next in long line of smart people pretending they know your business while you abdicate knowing your business or employees.

    Hope leaders can be a bit braver and wiser this go 'round so we don’t get to a cliffs edge in software.