Den Termin kriegt man, ja - aber in der Praxis wurde ich ohne Überweisung in der Hand auch schon zu meinem Termin wieder weggeschickt oder musste unterschreiben, dass ich die Überweisung innerhalb 1 Woche nachreiche und sonst die Behandlungskosten selber trage, auch wenn ich da schon Patient bin und zu Kontrolluntersuchungen (im neuen Quartal) komme.
Finde sehr wild, dass das offenbar nicht überall so ist?
Was ich daran so dumm finde ist, dass mich noch nie im Leben irgendein Facharzt ohne Überweisung vom Hausarzt in die Praxis gelassen hat, außer zur expliziten Akutsprechstunde…
Merkwürdige Gegenrealität, aus der solche Vorschläge kommen.
People need what they need to feel safe, and as long as noone was coerced, but agreed willingly to this particular set of STI risk management rules, I don’t see an issue with them. And it seems like your friend’s friend has done so. If they didn’t want to give up sex with your friend, then they shouldn’t have entered a polycule that has rules like that.
I can definitely understand that your friend is hurt, though - they’ve basically been told “My new relationship is more important to me than our existing relationship”, and I think it’s pretty weak sauce from your friend’s friend that they try to put that on the polycule’s rules (like “I don’t want to, they’re making me do it, I have no choice!” bullshit) instead of owning it as a conscious decision they made. I personally would feel most betrayed by that kind of dishonesty.
You speak about Cheddar doing stuff with Gouda you have denied yourself doing with Swiss for Gouda’s sake, and it’s making you vengefully jealous.
My question is - did Cheddar explicitly ask these sacrifices of you, or did you just assume that it would be the right thing to do? edit: nevermind, gotta read better…
I feel like both of you handled some things suboptimally, but this particular aspect sounds like you’ve been doing this to yourself by assuming instead of communicating.
Generally I don’t really understand this situation. Jealousy is not something that just happens to someone and has to be avoided. Jealousy is the flashing warning signal that something is not right (like a relationship that is unstable, or a need that isn’t met), and the starting point of a conversation, not the end of it. But there doesn’t seem to be a conversation around that in your story. Why not?
I love the implication that whimsy - which is basically defined by joyful purposelessness -must be assigned a measurable purpose (such as stress-reduction) to become a viable, option for people, since we now know it is beneficial, and can be used to optimize ourselves…