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  • I honestly reject the notion of an “AFAB childhood” entirely. I had the childhood of a trans guy, which is very different from the childhood of a cis girl.

    I might have poorly expressed myself then, I didn’t say that I had an AMAB childhood either, but a different, trans specific one. This was more in opposition to a “normal (wish I could put more quotes here) cis-het” childhood than attempting to lump trans people with their AGAB.

    By the way, I love your online form solution, pretty simple yet elegant and useful.


  • Transwoman here,

    Can’t vouch for any of the non-binary issues but for AGAB/trans(wo)man stuff, I feel like those terms are actually useful depending on context.

    If I’m talking about pre-transition experiences like childhood, my AGAB matters, for some medical matters, my AGAB also come again on the table, dating (with sexual intent) knowing that I am pre-op (and even post-op I still feel like it would stay relevant), my AGAB will matter to any potential partner.

    Differenciating myself as a “transwoman” rather than just a “woman” is also important in some other context (like here) as, as much as I would love to I didn’t have an AFAB childhood, education, experiences until way later in life. I didn’t share the same struggles as they do (had a whole different set, though), so in any conversation about those topics, it matters a lot.

    It also means I had to learn all the “womanly stuff” very late (like make-up, walking in heels, women’s fashion…) so this is also a “please don’t judge too harshly, I just started”. I also won’t experience a lot of AFAB experiences like menstruations, pregnancy, etc… so it also matters in conversations about those topics.

    It is wildly innapropriate in a lot of other context though (your AFAB hair salon example comes to mind). And in a lot of situations I am a “woman” and not a “transwoman” as the distinction is unnecessary usually.





  • “The system” is physics. You can’t have tiny speakers embeded in a flat screen sound as good as a dedicated sound system due to how sound works. Same goes for phones camera, the tiny size just cannot compete against bigger, dedicated hardware due to how light works.

    So go ahead and go fight the universe if you want, I’ll be here enjoying my audio on big ass speakers you can find in a thrift shop since those things existed for decades.

    Pretty sure the “corporation” that made my speakers in the 70’s are well fed with the non-existant money I sent them.







  • My first “own” smartphone and not second hand from family members was a samsung galaxy s7 I bought in 2016, I kept using it until the battery nearly died (took a whooping… 15 minutes to go from 100% to 0%) in 2022 and I couldn’t simply change it due to the glass back being broken, the screen had severe burn-ins and the OS was no longer maintained so I ended up switching.

    That first phone that lasted only 6 years was a valuable lesson, it shaped my wishlist for a “perfect” phone, which ironicaly enough was another samsung one, but xcover rather than S. Hoping that this one with no glass back, an amovible battery, no oled screen and that went from android 12 to 16 (and still going) will last longer.

    I wish my old S7 could have any use beside paperweigh but I couldn’t find any sadly.




  • What you are describing sounds like plain old debian. Stable thing that you can occasionnally update, perfect for all your server stuff. All my servers run CLI debian (probably won’t be your case as you mentionned some gaming on it too) and I tend to forget about updating them (or even having them to be honnest) due to how stable the damn thing is.