

Transwoman here,
Can’t vouch for any of the non-binary issues but for AGAB/trans(wo)man stuff, I feel like those terms are actually useful depending on context.
If I’m talking about pre-transition experiences like childhood, my AGAB matters, for some medical matters, my AGAB also come again on the table, dating (with sexual intent) knowing that I am pre-op (and even post-op I still feel like it would stay relevant), my AGAB will matter to any potential partner.
Differenciating myself as a “transwoman” rather than just a “woman” is also important in some other context (like here) as, as much as I would love to I didn’t have an AFAB childhood, education, experiences until way later in life. I didn’t share the same struggles as they do (had a whole different set, though), so in any conversation about those topics, it matters a lot.
It also means I had to learn all the “womanly stuff” very late (like make-up, walking in heels, women’s fashion…) so this is also a “please don’t judge too harshly, I just started”. I also won’t experience a lot of AFAB experiences like menstruations, pregnancy, etc… so it also matters in conversations about those topics.
It is wildly innapropriate in a lot of other context though (your AFAB hair salon example comes to mind). And in a lot of situations I am a “woman” and not a “transwoman” as the distinction is unnecessary usually.







I might have poorly expressed myself then, I didn’t say that I had an AMAB childhood either, but a different, trans specific one. This was more in opposition to a “normal (wish I could put more quotes here) cis-het” childhood than attempting to lump trans people with their AGAB.
By the way, I love your online form solution, pretty simple yet elegant and useful.