Then what is a pancake? Same batter, but different cooking method.

Toad in a hole in the UK is a vastly different dish of sausages baked into a Yorkshire pudding

What are defining by ‘universal’ though? Universal across ALL humans? Well clearly no because there are tribes which have isolated traditions and beliefs surrounding particular things that we find revolting.

Even if there was something that EVERY group of humans found reprehensible, there are still going to be individuals that will do it.

In Ireland? That’s not the case in the UK.

Found the cat.

Exactly.

It’s not nerves, but ligaments and tendons that are linked, in basic terms.

What I know is that there isn’t a microscopic teapot between earth and the sun.

It’s a native feature in W11 now.

Don’t look up.

Don’t recall diagnosing him anywhere, but you go ahead and read what you want to read so that you can create a straw man.

I said that it’s a possibility and therefore should be approached with the care that entails.

But your solution, reading your other response is to talk to the person. Which, if you had read the original post, you would have realised they have already tried to. And their response to that detailed.

So what do you propose? Because if the person who is annoyed by the co-worker shouldn’t take time separate from their team to be able to complete aspects of their work, then the alternative is to…? The idea that a TL/manager whatever cannot trust their team to be able to leave them to work without them is obscene in itself. I guess the entire place falls apart when they have to go into meetings or trips etc.

I’m sure you’ll decide to read whatever you want from the above as well, and you do that. I’ll leave you to it.

There’s a sentence in this that every single reply to this has either ignored or missed, and that’s the part where you think he’s autistic.

From the small snapshot of his life and personality that you’ve offered it does seem that he shows some pretty clear signs. It may be that he doesn’t even realise. I know that I’ve very recently come to realise that I’m obviously autistic and I’m very much an adult. How everyone around me throughout my entire life missed it/didn’t realise is absolutely boggling.

Whether he’s diagnosed or not shouldn’t change that it should be handled with the appropriate sensitivities and equality policies as if he was autistic. But that’s entirely up to your work place and it’s culture.

You all need to remember that while you ‘only’ have to be around then during the times you’re around him, he has always got to deal with being autistic, whether he knows he is or not. And from the sounds of things he may not be very good at masking, which is both good and bad for him. As a person who seems to be neurotypical, you live in a world that is designed for neurotypical people. He isn’t and doesn’t. Imagine being forced to live in a world where you need wheelchair ramps, but there are none provided - anywhere. He needs mental ramps.

You are more than entitled and allowed to not want to deal with him or be around him, please don’t take this as saying that expect you to do that. But there needs to be sensitivity and an understanding of his struggles. If he is autistic, he cannot help the way he approaches situations or how he feels when you rebuff him. To him being told he’s annoying is clearly something he’s taking very, very personally. Take it from someone who is also autistic, it’s horrible. I feel like my entire existence is being rejected, and it sticks and I ruminate on it for hours sometimes days.

So speak to HR first, see what their equality policy is, and what options that they have. Hopefully the company culture and policy recognises that a diagnosis isn’t always possible or needed. And take it from there. Ultimately I think that some of the responses about finding time where you can separate yourself from him is the most likely solution.

Isn’t that like a network protocol or something?

It’s so bizarre when people try and double down and put words in other’s mouths rather than just fuck off.

Froggy prophet.

…that is what I said? Weird that you would effectively just repeat me.

And the reason why we are so desperate for a AV/PR type system.

If we did then the different shades of each side could legitimately find their own place and voice.

Yes that means that you give a small voice to those you may not want to, but you also get a small voice yourself. That’s democracy.

Ryan McBeth has done a fairly succinct video on it.

It’s very high level and skips a lot of nuance, but you get the idea.

https://youtu.be/Azs7As3MYFU?si=UrUGjWbh1tpyNM5J

One does not excuse the other.

Yes, my bad. Total brain melt moment.