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Cake day: March 12th, 2026

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  • There is nothing in the books itself that is anti trans (AFAIK and remember), it is that people equate her works with her political views which are anti trans. As a most likely trans person myself (still working out the details of it, stay tuned) I have a real struggle at my hands. On the one hand her books were a massive part of my childhood and early teens. I waited in line out side book stores to get the newest one. On the other hand she uses the money she gets from licenses and the IP to fund anti trans organisations. She also uses her fame / reach to spread TERF points of view. I enjoy and love the world she created back then but I cannot in good conscience consume anything that supports her now. Not any merch, series, film or game.

    I on my ow may not make a difference but the sum is more than it parts. If enough ppl. start voicing their objection to her and her views, boycott the new stuff because of her, some change might be possible. If not, sacrificing something I loved growing up is an acceptable price to pay to keep me and others safe.




  • I hope you get one that’s great for you too! I was really fortunate to hit a therapist that works so well with and for me right of the bat, without hassle. I heard a few too many stories of ppl. Having to swap their therapist a couple of times before they found the right one and at least so far I think she has been amazing!

    Edit: also I am happy to hear you like the coat! Hopefully it fits me well :)




  • Thanks! Yes I was very tempted to buy the purple one as well but my financially more responsible wife told me to choose one… I apologise that I may have fed your addiction so I strongly recommend do not click on other products on the side or you will be left wanting for more. I still have about 40 items on my wishlist there :X

    The session was great, we made good progress but it is really hard to do each topic justice in just 45 min at a time. There is such sooooo much I want and need to talk about. Kinda wants me to have a second and third therapist :D distribution of labour so to speak.





  • Hm I don’t think there is a 100% guaranteed safe way of transportation. How does the Uni (I presume because of dormitory) handle parcels? If they hold onto them for a while you can sent it there.

    I would also consider bringing maybe only the bare minimum / only those who appear to be least likely to break (fewest small things that stand out like spears, flags, long thing weapons etc.)

    You can also just buy a whole army there :X would provide excellent procrastination opportunities.


  • Could you rent a storage box / post box where you move to and sent them there before you leave? I never used such a service though.

    You could also check how the new country handles parcels. In mine they don’t sent them to your home and all parcels are always in a post-office / supermarket who handles the parcels. Allowing you to have them sent there and they hang on to the parcels for up to two weeks.

    Could you also not pack them with the rest of your items, or is everything in suitcases on the plane? Like do you plan on buying all furniture or kitchen stuff there?




  • I wish I had that bucket of magic, button or any other instant perfect fixes. Sadly I have not found it yet so in the meantime I try to get on HRT and possibly FFS depending on the effects of the former and how my therapy is going. Tomorrow is my second appointment :3

    I am glad that you found more confidence and hope that this community will continue to be good for you.

    I don’t know anyone else nor have I seen (consciously) any other trans person in IRL. Now I hyper focus so much on my own body and its features that I don’t think I can make any reasonably accurate assessment about mine or anyone else’s body because of my own distorted views.


  • Welcome and happy to meet you!

    I myself started this journey just a few months ago. I long had the same experience, to keep my wish to be a girl confined to games and fantasies.

    Growing up in the 90s as well, there was (and still is) a lot of homophobia in my home village. So as a kid I figured anything more exotic surly would mean social suicide. In a small village of 5000 people not really a good option. When you can’t leave or change schools. So I pushed that part deeeeeeep down but I also had several occasions where I really should have noticed that it does not work like that but I didn’t.

    Besides as a 13year old to wear your sisters clothing and feeling amazing is a totally cis boy thing to do… :3 but also don’t tell anyone about it.

    I told my wife last December that I have these fantasies and we are working things out now together. It is good that you have your wife’s support, to me it has been invaluable! We were visiting my family in Germany at the time so I am extra curious to hear more about your journey in my old home! I also will have too look into these things myself as I am still a German citizen.

    If you need someone to talk to just sent me a DM I just happen to have just finished my BSc in Psychology and embark now on a mission to find a job! (Meaning I’ve got some time on my hands)

    Welcome again,

    Maple