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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • Late to the party here but I have 3 daughters all under 10 (and I’m the dad)

    A few note worthy things :

    Books My body is mine (read with them. Teaches them bodily autonomy) Brave, Not Perfect (read myself) And if you want to be frustrated with the world, read invisible women.

    Activities. Ooo boy this one can be frustrating. Boys are lauded for their rambunctious behaviours and girls are told how pretty they are.

    I include my daughters in EVERYTHING. Fixing the lawnmower? Who wants to come help?! Going to home depot? You bet I have anywhere from 1-3 little girls in tow with me (we’ve done this since birth and it gives mom a little break). I’m a music teacher by profession so none of these typically “manly” tasks are natural to me or part of my day to day. When I include my girls in home and vehicle maintenance, we get to learn together.

    One of the things I’ve learned most is to just show them how they should be treated. How you treat their mother shows them how they should be treated by a partner from a very early age.

    I take my daughters on dates, 1 on 1. I still date their mother, why shouldn’t I include them for 1 on 1 time to strengthen our relationship. Granted, for the Mrs. it’s restaurants or tickets to something. For my girls, it’s Costco and ice cream (which they friggin love).

    The proof is in the pudding. When my one daughter was 7 she started talking to me about boys with explicit instructions not to tell mom (mom asks too many questions). She felt comfortable sharing it with ME. There are not enough drugs in the world to replicate that “high”.

    Asking the question here is a great start. Keep trying to be the best man you can be (whatever that means to you) for your partner and daughter and they’ll always be better off for it.

    When in doubt, read, read, read. Ask questions and listen more than you talk. And for the love of god, don’t be weird about periods and feminine products.


  • Couldn’t have said it better myself. I used plex for free for the better part of a decade. Bought lifetime when a raise was coming and it was still $140 (kicking myself because at one point with a sale I was looking at something like $45).

    I’ve used plex pass enough, and it’s my main driver for all our entertainment outside of music and audiobooks that if they asked for some more money, I wouldn’t care so much.

    The ease of use, the UI, and remote access without having to jump through a bunch of hoops is worth it.

    No shade to Jellyfin, but it’s not nearly as dumb dumb friendly.




  • Maybe. But switching from Windows to Mac, and again the opposite wasn’t an issue. The learning curve was just changing the way my hands work with keyboard shortcuts. Functionality was so similar. Until Linux can get away from using terminal it’ll be an issue. It may be anecdotal, but my anecdote is significantly more common than yours when you reach past Lemmy. Everything about Linux is awesome, except for the user experience itself and ease of use and it won’t be mainstream until its structured in a way that makes it so. I’m very much pro FOSS and pro decentralization but I also only have so many hours in the day to be Sisyphus, pushing the rock up the hill of trying to understand Linux only to be in the same position and more frustrated than when I started.

    And putting Linux as it is right now in schools will do no good. Kids are on phones. Right now, more than ever. They are used to and demand the easy os/app/website/etc.


  • For Linux to be a considerable contender for the average user, they need to make it more simple and like a Windows or Mac os.

    I used Windows my whole life pretty much. Switching to Mac for a 5 year period was easy. Switching to Linux was easy. Using it was not. Installing a different distro was easy, using it was not. Rinse and repeat 3 more times and hello windows 11, looks like I’m using spyware. Because it just works.









  • I try to use Foss but only when it’s a lateral move. I tried Linux mint. It came close but there were so many little things that just didn’t make sense to me as someone who used windows for the last 25 years. Do I want to use Windows 11? No, especially with everything they’ve been doing to it. But in terms of usability, the sacrifices that I make by using Windows 11 outweigh the extra work, frustration, and time spent trying to figure out Linux (tried 3 different distros too).

    I have 3 little kids, a full time job and aging parents. I don’t have hours every day to try and make stuff work.