24F. Is it normal that I want to used like a whore and taken advantage of? I have a fantasy of being forced and hurt and it’s all I can think about. Does this turn anyone on?
24F. Is it normal that I want to used like a whore and taken advantage of? I have a fantasy of being forced and hurt and it’s all I can think about. Does this turn anyone on?
Of course. There’s lots of people in the kink and bdsm scene that are into just that. I’m pretty submissive too (though not as sexual, for me it’s things I don’t really mix)
I would recommend to explore it carefully because it sounds like you’re really interested. But to get into it very slowly. So you can check if it’s really something you like and that you don’t feel pushed into it. This is not the kind of thing you want to dive into the deep end with. Even though being submissive is about loss of control, it’s also about being protected, trusting your dominant and having a way to stop. If you mess around with someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing it can turn into a nightmare. And legal issues like others have pointed out.
Luckily most people in the bdsm community are super careful with consent. Even more so than swingers for example. In this particular case I would always put things in writing. Even if it’s your regular partner. Because it’s the kind of thing that really can get out of hand. You could also have a trusted someone else there or do it in a bdsm club.
If you’re looking to get into it I would sign up to fetlife (free) and look for a ‘munch’ in your area. This is a meetup of kinky people in a neutral place like a bar, no playing just talking. You can get to know people and their practices, the community etc. In my area there are also lots of courses and workshops. I can recommend doing some before you do anything.
Your fantasy is not very specific “forced and hurt” could range from simply tying up and some light spanking to really heavy stuff. Like I said start small and only go further once you feel safe. Things like forced sex I would only do with highly trusted partners (I’ve never done that myself) and like I said written consent. And there should always be a stop word or sign (you can’t always speak). But to get there it helps to start with the much smaller stuff. I think it’s the only way to do it safely.