Apologies if this could be against rule 1. I don’t think so personally but feel free to remove if mod thinks so.

So, I lost my friend. He was a good friend and knew levels of me really well that possibly nobody does. But this is not a mourning post.

Aside from the tragedy, it’s dull (as insensitive as this might sound). Looking and finding new contacts is a huge challenge filled with a lot of setbacks. Lots of work, I am certain most of you will understand.

So life just got a lot duller.

Edit: thank you for the empathy.

Edit: apologies if I am not thanking everyone separately, I do read all of them. It is very supportive and heartwarming and possibly one of the best moments in responses for me since the beginning of the public internet (not exaggerating, I do remember)

  • Cris_Citrus@piefed.zipEnglish
    121·
    16 days ago

    Sending love my friend 🫂

    If it is comfortable to talk about in this setting, how did he pass (asking as an invitation to talk about things. I always struggle to say anything in detail unless invited, but you are welcome not to share if thats preferable :)

    • Strider@lemmy.worldOP
      121·
      16 days ago

      Thank you (not to mention all the others, ofc).

      I’m ‘fine’ regarding that, at least as I can be. It was cancer, of course. Several struggles over years and the end was more or less given. I hoped when the time came it would not drag on too much and it didn’t, but the suffering before had been enough already.

      Maybe the knowledge of the situation gave all a head start to cope with the loss, but it does not help at all.

      • vrek@programming.devEnglish
        12·
        16 days ago

        Since you made the comment that laughter and humor always helped in tough situations like this, I’ll give you two cancer jokes.

        #1

        A guy runs into a old friend who looks really depressed. The guy asks what’s wrong. “I just lost lost my father.” the guy is shocked “oh my god, that’s horrible, what did he die of?” the depressed friend replies “the big C”. The other guy says “cancer is horrible”. The depressed guy looks confused “cancer? No, he was out fishing and fell off the boat. He drowned in The Big Sea”

        #2

        A man rushes to the hospital worried about his wife. He gets there and talks to the doctor. “I’m sorry for your lose but we couldn’t save her” The husband is crying but through his tears asked “what killed her?” the doctor replies “the big c” the husband looks shocked “I didn’t even know she had cancer”. The doctor replied “no, no, you misunderstand! She was walking out of CVS and the sign wasn’t secured properly…”