Same here. It took me years to start undoing the maladaptations it caused.
The best method I’ve found is to externalise the hate, not internalise. E.g. I don’t get annoyed at myself for not doing the washing up. I let myself get annoyed at the washing up itself. It still motivates, but doesn’t do the corrosive mental damage internalising it does.
That final hashtag really caught me off guard, made me realise that’s exactly what I’ve been doing to myself my whole life.
Same here. It took me years to start undoing the maladaptations it caused.
The best method I’ve found is to externalise the hate, not internalise. E.g. I don’t get annoyed at myself for not doing the washing up. I let myself get annoyed at the washing up itself. It still motivates, but doesn’t do the corrosive mental damage internalising it does.