I see how it could be uncomfortable. From one internet stranger to another, I hope you know it’s appreciated. That kind of empathy already goes a long way. It might not come out that way but I see it from here.
Some real advice for situations where you’re not quite sure how to address the ethnicity topic: you could just ask if they grew up in <your city>. If they say no, they might tell you where they grew up. If not, let it pass. Not everyone wants to talk about where they grew up. 1st generation+ Asians can be all over the place on comfort with their identity.
Also, if the vibes aren’t there, they might just not want to talk. That’s fine too.
I see how it could be uncomfortable. From one internet stranger to another, I hope you know it’s appreciated. That kind of empathy already goes a long way. It might not come out that way but I see it from here.
Some real advice for situations where you’re not quite sure how to address the ethnicity topic: you could just ask if they grew up in <your city>. If they say no, they might tell you where they grew up. If not, let it pass. Not everyone wants to talk about where they grew up. 1st generation+ Asians can be all over the place on comfort with their identity.
Also, if the vibes aren’t there, they might just not want to talk. That’s fine too.