That’s the thing really, I use “bro” gender neutrally all the time (though in a rare instance of treating transwomen differently I’ll avoid it if I know someone is transfem, because that’s just asking for misunderstandings). If anyone asked me to not refer to them that way I’ll just say oh ok sorry I won’t on the future, it’s gender neutral to me I didn’t mean to misgender you.
All of this, all the pronoun discussions, people insisting on deadnames, is the same as reading someones name on an ID, calling them that, and them telling you they don’t like that name and please use a different name (even when it’s just a nickname and nothing gender related). If you don’t accept their preference, you’re just an asshole. You don’t need to walk on eggshells, you just need to do a bare minimum of thinking and most importantly listen to people.
That’s the thing really, I use “bro” gender neutrally all the time (though in a rare instance of treating transwomen differently I’ll avoid it if I know someone is transfem, because that’s just asking for misunderstandings). If anyone asked me to not refer to them that way I’ll just say oh ok sorry I won’t on the future, it’s gender neutral to me I didn’t mean to misgender you.
All of this, all the pronoun discussions, people insisting on deadnames, is the same as reading someones name on an ID, calling them that, and them telling you they don’t like that name and please use a different name (even when it’s just a nickname and nothing gender related). If you don’t accept their preference, you’re just an asshole. You don’t need to walk on eggshells, you just need to do a bare minimum of thinking and most importantly listen to people.