Straight up I went on a drinks to check how we vibe date last week, super simple, 5 beers total, two orders of wings as apps(so 12 wings), $80 before tipping $20. Not to mention the haircut I could’ve put off had I not had a date which was $60, and the gas I used getting there $5. Even if I tipped my personal minimum for a server at 20% that’s over $100. I don’t mind paying for a first date because it’s every woman is potentially putting their life on the line by meeting a man they don’t know alone for however long it lasts, but I used to could plan 2-3 first dates over a week, spend less, and get more food and drink.
doesn’t mean they exist in abundance or in your area.
i’m sure some humble ice cream date lady exists for me, but she probably lives in another state. where I live women think you’re a jerk if you want to take them out on a cheap date, and if’s not a ‘nice’ date unless it’s $500 or less. and yes, they look at the tab and judge you by how much ‘spend’ you are putting out.
Uh huh. Within four years, mostly. That is how long the chemical frisson takes to wear off (and coincidentally, how long it is to fully wean a child) and then the hot sex goes and so does the marriage.
I had SO many girlfriends that I saw go through this EXACT pattern. Here I was the last one married, watching them all get hitched (thinking there was something wrong with me) and then came the kids and then the divorces and then remarried and a few hitting a second divorce. I’m like WTF, I got tight with my best friend first, then we became lovers and finally got hitched 7 years after we met. 35 years later, he is still my best friend first and foremost. He kicks my ass and keeps me on my toes. Drives me up a wall and I love it.
It’s about finding someone you do NOT have to fuck 24/7 that you like so much, that once the sex goes (and it does, if we’re being honestly blunt about it) you still are crazy about them, and they are about you.
Different people exist
Bingo. It’s the ones stuck in the gender and conformity roles getting plucked the hardest.
Nuts to that.
I know, but it seems short sighted to me to accept only a single possibility for dating which involves spending a lot of money
Straight up I went on a drinks to check how we vibe date last week, super simple, 5 beers total, two orders of wings as apps(so 12 wings), $80 before tipping $20. Not to mention the haircut I could’ve put off had I not had a date which was $60, and the gas I used getting there $5. Even if I tipped my personal minimum for a server at 20% that’s over $100. I don’t mind paying for a first date because it’s every woman is potentially putting their life on the line by meeting a man they don’t know alone for however long it lasts, but I used to could plan 2-3 first dates over a week, spend less, and get more food and drink.
Cite your sources
doesn’t mean they exist in abundance or in your area.
i’m sure some humble ice cream date lady exists for me, but she probably lives in another state. where I live women think you’re a jerk if you want to take them out on a cheap date, and if’s not a ‘nice’ date unless it’s $500 or less. and yes, they look at the tab and judge you by how much ‘spend’ you are putting out.
I’m gonna say this… and I’m a married hen, but if that’s the mentality of women today, christ, no wonder so many end up desperate cougars.
You habve no idea the number of women I see in their late 30’s still trying to catch a guy.
Not all, by any means, but a shockingly high enough number that I do notice…
marriage rates are plummeting.
Which is financial suicide. Those tax breaks for being married really add up and you can save $$ waay faster.
those tax breaks are nothing compared to the financial cost of divorce. 1/2 marriages ends in divorce.
Uh huh. Within four years, mostly. That is how long the chemical frisson takes to wear off (and coincidentally, how long it is to fully wean a child) and then the hot sex goes and so does the marriage.
I had SO many girlfriends that I saw go through this EXACT pattern. Here I was the last one married, watching them all get hitched (thinking there was something wrong with me) and then came the kids and then the divorces and then remarried and a few hitting a second divorce. I’m like WTF, I got tight with my best friend first, then we became lovers and finally got hitched 7 years after we met. 35 years later, he is still my best friend first and foremost. He kicks my ass and keeps me on my toes. Drives me up a wall and I love it.
It’s about finding someone you do NOT have to fuck 24/7 that you like so much, that once the sex goes (and it does, if we’re being honestly blunt about it) you still are crazy about them, and they are about you.