I think there’s something about publicly displaying pornography, even cropped, that signals to me that there’s a lack of concern for other people’s comfort and to some extent consent. I think I’d feel similarly if someone was listening to porn through a speaker in public and all you heard was moaning and noises, even with no explicit words. I understand transgressive behaviors, but the general sexualization of women in conjunction with the fact most these depictions skew quite young makes me extra uncomfortable. Maybe I was just sexualized and harassed quite young, and the people I’ve seen with this material tend to be the exact types to engage in predatory behavior, but it immediately makes me think the person is unsafe and doesn’t actually care about me or my body or my safety. You can argue that no one owes anyone anything, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume people with that kind of material know people may be uncomfortable with it and they just don’t care. That’s their right, but I just generally don’t vibe with people who enjoy doing things they know will make others uncomfortable, potentially for just the enjoyment of knowing they made others uncomfortable. If kissing your same sex partner makes people uncomfortable, obviously those people suck, but people who don’t want to see cropped porn just don’t want to see cropped porn. That seems relatively normal to me and a pretty easy thing to avoid, so anyone purposely doing that just strikes me as a little antisocial in a way I find off-putting. I understand that not everyone sees it that way, so I was just wondering why others were drawn to this.
Appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts. One of my favorite things about being part of the queer community is the diversity of opinions and perspectives yet close knit solidarity and understanding. I hope you have a great day followed by even greater ones.
not op but am queer woman who thinks the shirt goes hard because I’m a weeb, terminally online, and generally like outlandish provocative lowbrow art
I think there’s something about publicly displaying pornography, even cropped, that signals to me that there’s a lack of concern for other people’s comfort and to some extent consent. I think I’d feel similarly if someone was listening to porn through a speaker in public and all you heard was moaning and noises, even with no explicit words. I understand transgressive behaviors, but the general sexualization of women in conjunction with the fact most these depictions skew quite young makes me extra uncomfortable. Maybe I was just sexualized and harassed quite young, and the people I’ve seen with this material tend to be the exact types to engage in predatory behavior, but it immediately makes me think the person is unsafe and doesn’t actually care about me or my body or my safety. You can argue that no one owes anyone anything, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume people with that kind of material know people may be uncomfortable with it and they just don’t care. That’s their right, but I just generally don’t vibe with people who enjoy doing things they know will make others uncomfortable, potentially for just the enjoyment of knowing they made others uncomfortable. If kissing your same sex partner makes people uncomfortable, obviously those people suck, but people who don’t want to see cropped porn just don’t want to see cropped porn. That seems relatively normal to me and a pretty easy thing to avoid, so anyone purposely doing that just strikes me as a little antisocial in a way I find off-putting. I understand that not everyone sees it that way, so I was just wondering why others were drawn to this.
those are all completely valid points for the record
Appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts. One of my favorite things about being part of the queer community is the diversity of opinions and perspectives yet close knit solidarity and understanding. I hope you have a great day followed by even greater ones.
likewise! you seem like a decent lass :]