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  • First off thanks for writing up such a detailed answer while touching on the history of bisexuality.

    is either biphobic by assuming bisexuals are not accepting of trans people or transphobic by viewing trans men as a different gender than cis men

    Believe me that is not what meant to say but I have be paying from the nose for wording it like that. It more has to do with how bisexuality is defined differently for different people and how that relates to right leaning groups where bisexuals can pass.

    Another definition I use, but perhaps less useful to answer

    It’s totally useful, a bit frustrating in a way that makes it feel like there’s an itch I can’t scratch but I agree and also think it’s something to be left alone. Let sleeping dogs lie and frankly questioning people on their identity is more likely to cause more problems and strain the relationship more than it will solve.



  • Sordid_Seraphim@lemmy.zipto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneQueer discourse rule
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    12 hours ago

    No you are not part of that fucking community.

    The community in question I’m talking about is the alt right and regresive centrists. They draw the line at bisexuality and anything past that is identity politics and make believe.

    This is exactly why I say bisexuals have risk. There are entire communities that function the premise bisexuality means attracted to both men and women emphasis on the both because they think that’s where it ends.

    That’s why I say it’s harder to find a transphobic pansexual person because in order to be pamsexual you need to be progressive enough to believe pansexuals exist in the first place.




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    You sure abandoned straight people fast.

    I also disagree for the fact that bisexuality is wide encompassing and normalized. It’s a term you don’t need to understand that there are more than two genders to use.

    You see in this very thread plenty of misunderstandings as to the definition to the extent that one person said they thought it meant attraction to both men and women. That one seems to be the most popular I’ve seen which is an issue because of how cis normative it is.

    The actual bisexual definition is inclusive and I’m not calling bisexuals evil. I’m saying because of that inclusivity it also includes more problematic people. Different communities have different definitions of bisexual and it just so happens liking both men and women perfectly fits the actual definition of bisexual just as much as say a more conservative and narrow viewed of it.

    You don’t have to believe me but I’ve seen that community and I’ve been on the internet long enough to know not to assume just because we’re both queer that the other person is an ally.


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    14 hours ago

    Except nowhere did I say either are inherently transphobic. I was pointing out that you’re more likely to run into a transphobic person of either of those groups because it’s such a wide encompassing umbrella.

    To me it’s no different from saying you’re more likely to run into someone who is homophobic who is straight than someone who is homophobic and bisexual.

    As for the racist thing I would say it’s a nonsense thing to say because it’s totally different. I’d say it’s fair that people of color should be wary of white people because because of systemic racism at large has stemmed from white supremacy. Are there people of color who are racist, absolutely, are people of color with internalized racism, absolutely. Should I be the one who should be talking about this, absolutely not nor am I comfortar with it but you brought us to race.

    More than anything I’m sick of having to explain and re-explain that some communities and sexualities are more risky for trans people than others.

    If they weren’t it wouldn’t be fucking normalized that trans people need to disclaim themselves being transgender with their partners for their own safety.



  • I see someone struggling with something that might take a minute or two tops and help them.

    Expanding on that I don’t think I’m a good person. I think the minimum people should do is help others if it’s no real skin off your nose.

    Good people are the people who volunteer, the pekple who do good for the sake of it and spend meaningful amounts of time helping others.

    Most people don’t, religious or not.