I specifically only ever look at Subscribed, never Hot or All or Local specifically to dodge all the US politics. As an American. This works well for me, but I admit just jumping on almost any instance and seeing what is there before you get to log in and filter to only Subscribed is very disheartening. Always some outraging and depressing US politics content on the front page, even without algorithms intentionally trying to push outrage (because unfortunately, outrage naturally succeeds on its own anyways—being angry generates more urge to type 5 paragraphs).

The other commenter’s explanation works well too. But if I have to deal with all these horrid political happenings in real life, I don’t want to come online and see more of it and dwell on it, just yelling into the online void instead of actually using that anger for useful things like activism or donating to vulnerable groups getting targeted. And having all those politics so popular online… for some it might be informative but I think for most it’s just a venting space and I’m not sure if it’s helpful (venting feelings is important, a third party could look on and see peoples’ points and get their mind changed) or letting people blow off anger in a way that neutralizes most of their energy to help others more tangibly, while pushing potential users away because they think the Fediverse is all-politics all the time with no escape.

Grateful you are trying to make a community that is more likely to hold solutions and people trying to solve outraging problems, than people posting about how another bad and outraging thing happened to the tune of 300 upvotes and 30 comments about how angry they are.

Same thing happened to me. I’d appreciate being able to click the reaction I make on the comment to get rid of it entirely.

Also, I’m guessing these reactions only show for PieFed users and do not show up as comments or anything for people on Mbin or Lemmy?

So fascinating there is a whole field for this called _cartography

That looks so good!

!pokemon@sopuli.xyz would appreciate this.

As a kid I literally considered “when I grow up I should live in a condo where shoveling was part of the HOA fees or just hiring a pro removal company so snow days can still be nice and enjoyable as an adult instead of ugh manual labor”

The latter option is definitely an option for those with disposable income, and it need not be a pro snow removal company. It can also be an option if you live around kids willing to shovel driveways for $

As the dreaded extrovert who chats in a nerdy online space, I rather enjoy the holiday season. Having an excuse to spend time with people I like, thinking of them, the whole holiday cheer thing, looking at the world outside and seeing people put effort into decorating things to make them look nice.

On one hand I’d assume it can be annoying to have someone do all these default assumptions when you do not fit into them, “consider people unlike you exist and it might feel unwelcoming to have many people assuming X is true for everyone,” but on another hand if I wanted to include everyone ever I’d probably have to stop making off-the-cuff remarks like what I assume the OP was doing, and edit everything I post to be inclusive of everyone all the time, when sometimes I really just wanted to share a generic thought I had with people. I do respect efforts to be more inclusive! I am happy to switch my language to be more inclusive, usually, but I also sometimes want to make an observational post without writing a bunch of disclaimers and considering everyone every time.

Or maybe I share it to all my friends for whom I know X is true, but because it’s on a public platform it gets screenshotted and then there is a discussion in the comments about annoying defaultism. Which is another conversation entirely: context collapse. And how much I’m responsible for when making a public post: can I ever reasonably talk to a smaller audience on a public post, or will it always be “consider you made this public, your fault for trying to talk to a smaller audience when you made the post public”? How much do I have to keep in mind that because it is public, everyone can see it and participate, even if realistically I think it will not be propagated and screenshotted because I’m a nobody who tries to avoid the type of “sick burn” that goes viral? Something to keep in mind in the back of my head so I should not post anything identifying but I can otherwise reasonably post to just an audience of you and this thread, or something to keep at the forefront of my mind and so I should ensure I’m including everyone and making sure that people who did not start off reading this thread would be able to understand my tone and intent and point just from an isolated screenshot of my post?

I wanted to reply with “you can just opt out of those expectations and nap, you know” and then thought of how someone would probably come at me, possibly gently but also possibly “how easy is your life that that’s an option!? You spoiled, privileged bitch! I have so many unbreakable commitments in the winter and reasons why I cannot just make it easier and why this post is right and we all have too many expectations,” realized my reply might be both uninclusive of life perspectives I did not consider and insensitive, and did not post it. I do wonder how many times I have held back and could have contributed without backlash, and how many times this habit of mine is saving me people yelling at me on the internet.

TL;DR: communication hard

Delete whole thread specifically because I imagine that is two layers to check through, you both have to find the deleted post and then its edit history, instead of just edit history. The whole principle of “a determined thief could probably break into anywhere, but they’ll probably pick the low-effort unlocked house and skip over the one with a security camera, two dogs, and a tall wire fence,” just make it harder and more inconvenient to find the post content. (I do say this not being 100% aware of how the code behind the Fediverse works, nor if we have something similar to the Reddit undeleter sites yet. Also do not know if the Reddit undeleter sites recovered old versions of posts before edits.)

I usually do make the assumption anything on the internet is for forever, but I also think we’re well aware that sometimes people make mistakes, and sometimes people realize only after they commit the mistake. I am not so sure just saying “well the internet is forever, just give up” is the smart decision here. I’d prefer losing an online discussion over someone self-doxxing and being unable to take it down.

In general, I also use deletion because sometimes I’ll type out a reply I think is nice and measured, but then I think of if the other person is going to be okay with me trying to politely disagree or if I’ll get a much more harshly-worded reply full of insults in return. I end up deleting to avoid the conflict and misery. I can understand why people would want to access the discussion, especially since I’m pretty sure I still stand by what I said in those but just took it back to save myself “fuck you!!!” in my inbox, or worse a lovely logical disagreeing response… with a bunch of namecalling surprise at the end. I’m not sure I’d be able to keep calm and report instead of sending back a whole thing on how that wasn’t very nice and how heartbreaking it is that I was engaging in good faith (and not just pretending to and using that as a cover, not sealioning) and got responded to as if I was being much nastier, what happened to kindness and civility and educating people you think are wrong instead of hating on them immediately… (and then I delete it because I realize how bad it looks and that it’d only invite more vitriol.)

No, this has not happened to me yet, especially because most of my opinions fall in line with the Fediverse at large. I have not posted transphobia and rightfully gotten bashed for it and then end up crying about why people are so mean to me when I just said the T slur. But I have seen enough unkind replies like this to a person not being nasty or bigoted that I do fear it. Even now I kind of want to delete because I’m worried you’ll say “well just then block em lol, grow up” (yes, I would, but obviously being told the nasty things meriting a block in the first place does not feel good) and a bunch of “toughen up you snowflake” type things to me. In real life, I have not really had people be nasty to me and I have continued expectations that people will continue to treat me in a way that does not involve hostility, so of course I do not have high defenses for that.

Funnily enough this only happens with typed words. In real life I think I only ever said something I wanted to take back once in elementary, but I have also encountered a much smaller number of belligerent people who I think would swear at me in real life than I have online.

Hey, thanks for explaining! Not new to the Fediverse, but new to PieFed. I agree with your philosophy: own your own content.

I mean, if I accidentally wrote something that gives away my location (maybe a discussion topic about bars and I mention my local bar Barname is super great?) I want to be able to have that GONE instead of kept alive in the name of discussion and keeping content. I am sure you can think of multiple cases where actually getting rid of some content would be useful. Is there a solution that allows for both? Would editing over my comment, as a comment below mentions, work? Typical deletion allows recovery, but editing over lets me obscure my accidental self-dox?

https://unhook.app/

I use the Unhookd extension on YouTube so I do not get lost all day. Thankfully always turned my nose up at Shorts, but removing them still makes the real estate stuff I actually use instead of something that makes my sensitive self start thinking about how much I hate the short form content we-want-to-addict-you reduce-friction-to-keep-you-scrolling-for-days trend. No more suggested videos. No Live Chat. No Home Feed. Just me and the search bar, going directly for the video I need/want to see.

We do at least have the advantage of editing titles.

You thought correctly. Looks appealing

Yeah, but “depressing/morbid but true” is not the point of NiceMemes.

A place to post memes & images that won’t absolutely obliterate your mental health!
Memes must not stray into hopelessness and be generally positive or neutral.

can’t wait to watch you… die in your cities

ok then :(

I think we’re drifting away from the original community intent especially since the current mod posted this.

The last part seems pretty unwholesome for !NiceMemes in my opinion